What do you want to be when you group up is one of the most useless questions an adult can ask a child.  As if growing up is finite.  As if some point you become something and that's the end.  So far in my life, I've been a lawyer. I've been a Vice President at a hospital and the director or a nonprofit that helps young people build meaningful careers.  I've been a working class black student at a fancy mostly white college.  I've been the only woman, the only African America, in all sorts of rooms.  I've been a bride, a stressed out new mother, a daughter torn to grief. And until recently, I was the First Lady of the United States of America...